Horrified or comfortable in diapers?

by 35way | May 07, 2012 04:02 AM

As a fairly new diaper wearer 24/7 for fecal incontinence I've been seeing one of two scenarios in some of the posts on this site namely 1) the diaper wearer is horrified at having to wear and/or buy and/or to be 'outed' as needing diapers or 2) the diaper wearer is comfortable and relaxed to at last have peace of mind.

I'm in the second catagory.

Which are you?

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    1cmoore12/12/2012 4:33:00 PM

    I am more comfortable than not. While I prefer to keep it private, I am not concerned about letting others know when necessary. I had neck surgery recently, and the hospital staff were very professional in assisting with diapering. (I couldn't maneuver to see the tabs to fasten the brief so we did a standing approach with me holding up the brief and the staff members doing the fastening.)

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    bedwetter78912/13/2012 3:56:00 AM

    I must say I have been dating a fine lady and she dose not mind me wearing a diaper. I am more comfortable in them now. I can not tell you how nice it is to have the support and understanding of the her in my life.

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    diaperdave12/13/2012 5:57:00 AM

    It took a long time to get adjusted to, but I would be terrified to not be wearing a diaper. After having had prostate and bladder cancer, having the bladder replaced with a neobladder and the prostate removed, I have no control. My bladder empties itself on it's own. My only indication is the wet diaper. So my answer is I am comfortable wearing diapers.

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    Robert10912/13/2012 6:47:00 AM

    Diapers are nothing new for me and I am quite accustomed to them. I guess I would say that it is comforting knowing that I am safe (or at least nearly so) from the discomfort of hopelessly trying not to go and the humiliation of a public accident. I still have moments of panic though, like buying them, changing them in a restroom, and when the big box of night diapers appears on my porch for all my neighbors to see. I was on a crowded elevator, once, when I detected a faint pee smell. I became very nervous and self-conscious. Now I wait for the next one where I can keep my space.

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    the Artist12/13/2012 1:57:00 PM

    for me I have be comfortable as I'm only a bed wetter. I only problem I have is sometimes I get super tired but a dry bed is better bed. Alos I been dry for two day straight and I'm happy, Lets see how far this can go.

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    Rope_Wrench12/14/2012 2:14:00 AM

    I guess I'm the odd man out here. I wouldn't go so far as to say horrified but I am not completely comfortable with it either. I still find myself cringing or jumping whenever I am in bed and the wife touches my protection or rushing to change and get covered up before anyone sees me at home. For example, I will wait till the lights are out before I strip down to get into bed.
    Don't get me wrong, I am leaps and bounds ahead of where I was this time last year but I still have my issues. I really envy those of you that are OK with it and have moved on.

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    Guest12/14/2012 12:46:00 PM

    Remember when you first starting wearing seat belts? I'm not sure how many of you were around when it was uncommon to wear them, and the ones in cars were inconvenient to say the least.

    But once you got used to them, it felt kind of odd to not have it on. Almost as if you were naked, unprotected in some way.

    That's how I now feel about diapers. Yes, wearing one feels odd, at first, but then you get used to it, and begin to associate all the things you can now do because of them, and the negative feelings begin to fade away. You begin to integrate them in with your clothing until they feel more than normal, they feel wanted.

    Honestly, if the time came when I no longer needed diapers, I think I'd have a hard time NOT wearing one.


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    Patrick12/14/2012 2:40:00 PM

    Last month I had a cystometrogram. We all know how embarrassing that exam can be. What is relevant to this thread is that a snafu of some sort meant that I was in the exam room for some five hours, while my wife was spitting nails in the waiting room. During most of the time I was waiting, I was without the protection of a diaper. I must have gone to the toilet six or eight times trying to avoid an accident, not knowing when somebody would come to get me for the exam. I like the analogy of a car's seatbelt. When the exam was finally over, being able, at last, to put a full diaper on, was a huge relief. A diaper is so much part of my clothing that I miss it, even when there is a toilet nearby and a medical exam prevents me from having it.

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    boyinwilson12/16/2012 1:27:00 AM

    dude i know how you feel after i had my wreck and they told me i may need to wear diapers i thought i was dreaming i was 20 years old i was to young for this, there for a long time i would not go anywhere or do anything. but then one day i said to myself i enjoy havin fun and this is not going to stop me from getting out and having fun. don't let this these get in the way of your fun trust me there are alot of them walking around out there. so get out there and have fun.

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    CJ in NM12/17/2012 9:58:00 AM

    Horrified or comfortable???

    Yes. Both.

    Lately it's been a little better having had some close friends find out and react very supportively but it sure seems I've spent a lot of time worrying about being discovered. Then again, I can't imagine going without one now as I can live my life, do my job and not freak out when accidents happen.

    So, yes, both.


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