Jan 19 2012 04:00 PM
I live with my 21 year old boyfriend and his roommate, and just recently he got a serious concussion from a snowboarding accident that is causing him to have regular bedwetting accidents. We have talked to his doctor about this, who said symptoms of this sort can last a few weeks up to a few months. My boyfriend is quite adverse to any kind of nighttime protection as he had to wear pullups as a kid due to bedwetting, and does not want to be reverted back to that helplessness again I guess. However, this is an issue that affects both of us, because I need to get up with him to change sheets and calm him down every night after it happens. How do I deal with something like this? I dont want to force him into doing anything he doesn't want to do, yet I want to make him feel comfortable enough to know that I wont judge him, or treat him any differently.
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Boyfriend having troubles with bedwetting
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Last Post: Apr 27 2012 12:21 AMby: Barry Millwood
 Ellemo Member since: 1/19/12 |
Boyfriend having troubles with bedwetting |
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Patrick Member since: 8/26/09 |
RE: Boyfriend having troubles with bedwetting
Jan 19 2012 06:33 PM Soon enough he will realize that the sleep deprivation that his nighttime incontinence is causing both of you could be tragic, if it leads to drowsy driving. Although I understand his embarrassment, helping him to think of the distress he is causing others by his refusal to use protection should be a priority. Surely, wetting his bed nightly must be embarrassing; finding and using protection that will give everybody a restful, uninterrupted night's sleep, and that will enable him to maintain his privacy, should be a relief. Good luck. Keep us informed. |
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Nick Member since: 3/31/09 |
RE: Boyfriend having troubles with bedwetting
Apr 24 2012 04:07 PM I suggest that you try to get your boyfriend to read and contribute to the male incontinence forum on this web site. He will find many other guys who can offer him support and suggestions. |
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ChristyB Member since: 11/17/10 |
Re: Boyfriend having troubles with bedwetting
Apr 26 2012 12:48 PM Hi Ellemo, It can be difficult to discuss something like this with someone you love. Try to let him know you want to help him out. Say that you're worried about him and that you want to make sure that he doesn't have any further complications by discussing options such as what products to use while he's recovering. I do agree with Nick that maybe he would be comfortable talking with other men who are in a similar situation. We have adults of all ages that have share their own issues and it may help him to know that he is not alone. |
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Barry Millwood Member since: 4/26/12 |
Re: Boyfriend having troubles with bedwetting
Apr 27 2012 12:21 AM If he has such a concussion that he has reverted to bed wetting, my wife would have me up by the nape of the neck and seeing some other doctor pronto. There is more than a concussion going on with him. He may very well have a back injury going along with that concussion. I too had a back and threatening spinal chord injury. I had an urgency problem and would not admit it to my nurse practitioner wife. I, however bought some liners to keep from walking around with the front of my pants wet and trying to tell folks that I'd just spilled a drink or something. I had to change from boxers to boxerbriefs to hold the liners and she thought I was running around on her after 41 years. She was getting ready to throw me out and I had to break down and confess what was going on. Your boyfriend is going to have to accept his condition and at least wear liners. He's a man now. |
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