Men's discussion

Jan 12 2012 06:27 PM

Hi, this_guy, and welcome. I understand your reticence about talking about some of this stuff with strangers, but that's the beauty of the Internet: no one knows who you are. Besides, we're all dealing with the same kind of stuff here, so you're among friends.


in your opinion, for nighttime protection, are briefs or tabs better?
I'll assume you're talking about pull-ups and diapers respectively, just to be clear. If you void large amounts at a time, or if you're going to be using these for nighttime, I can't imagine any pull-up would work for you. They don't for me even sitting. Get diapers with the most complete coverage you can find, and as much absorbancy as you need. Trial and error is your friend.

If you goof while shopping and buy the wrong size, is being too big or too small going to present any problems?
If you have to choose between too small or too large, go with too large. But that comes with its own problems, since you may get gapping at the legs, which increases the opportunities for leaks. Here again, trial and error will help you find the ones with the best fit.

If you're on vacation with friends, and you don't want them to know, what's the best way to keep it discrete?
That depends on the living situation. The less space you have to yourself, the tougher it'll be. But in any case, bring plastic grocery bags or gallon Ziplock bags with you to store used diapers until you can dispose of them properly and, maybe, offsite.

And for those who are in the dating age, how would you let a significant someone know?
First of all, dating is less about age than it is about phase of life. But being young you face challenges that older singles won't. There's a lot of conversation about this, and there's no simple answer, but my advice would be to get to know the person first, before you spring something like this on him/her. Let the person get to know you and you him/her before drudging up the potential problems.

But this is a balancing act in a lot of ways. Reveal too soon and you'll never know what could have been. Reveal too late and you were holding out and hiding something. The best advice I can give would be to follow your heart. Lame, I know, but this is more of an art than a science.

Welcome to our little forum. I hope you like it here and that we get a chance to know you well.

-RMS

Jan 13 2012 04:09 PM

Hi This_guy, I've just read this thread and the answers are very good and should help. I'd like to add that if you look for diapers on line, find companies that will send samples so you can find out what works best for you without having to spend a lot of money on a big package that you find won't work for you. However, you may have to pay a few bucks for shipping and handling. Many of those online companies have sales reps you can talk to in order to determine your needs and they will help you. Or you can go to a local thrift shop and find packages of briefs, some of which are partially used, and only pay a fraction of the cost you would in a "big box." As for dating, well, it is a matter of going with your heart and getting a feel for the situation. If she's receptive and you're on the same wavelengths, go ahead and tell her. But that can only happen when you know her better, and is obviously not a discussion topic for a first or second date. And it is a matter of "reading" people. Sometimes you can instinctively tell when it isn't the right time to talk about "it."
Good luck and I hope these suggestions help.

Jan 15 2012 02:45 PM

Hi this Guy:

I am new here too. College was pretty difficult as a bedwetter. Dorm was requiried for freshman ! Some medication helped get me through college. But I had to get off it evntually. The wetting returned with a vengeance. I did get married. But now divorced. I am worried aboout dating again. My Dr. had me swtich to cloth diapaers as i had too many rash issues with disposables. Taht makes it even more difficult. Write me if you want.

Jan 17 2012 01:31 PM

Wow, thanks for the warm welcome everyone! Glad to know that everyone is open minded. I look forward to being able to ask questions, and even give advice!

Thanks again

Feb 03 2012 03:36 PM

Hi: How is it going so far? I htink for most of us full diapers work better than any sort of pullups for over night time use. Eight hours without a change is just too long unless yours is a dribbling issue. If you empty your bladder fully in one voiding a pull up I don't think will hold enough. Also, I don't know if you know it but bedwetters often times fully void our bladders multiple times a night. That became fully obvious to me during the time when my parents were trying a bedwetting alarm with me.

Feb 05 2012 12:31 AM

if you don't care about the noise they work better.

Feb 07 2012 01:57 AM

Hey there!

First off good luck with school. I'm just finishing up with my senior year.

For nighttime protection go with a taped diaper. Pull ups leak horribly for most people.

I've been on vacation with most of my friends and lived with roomates all through college. Although my roommate knows I wear now, I found that changing in the bathroom and a good pair of pajama pants were all I needed. Boxer briefs helped cover up as well.

As far as telling a significant other, don't rush but don't hide either. You'll be surprised how accepting most people are.

Feel free to PM if you'd like to chat more.