Men's discussion

Dec 08 2011 07:53 AM

I could not agree more, However i do not wish to see men or women dressed up like babies. I would not ask the person in front of me hey why you wearing that diaper? It's non of my bussiness just as it is none of theres why I wear my diaper. Guess my point is if you feel you need the diaper then wear it I can not see where the diaper comes from to make a difference, I have used bambino, the plain white ones to be honnest in my oppinion they are not what they claim to be. just my two cents worth.

Dec 08 2011 04:12 PM

For whatever way shape or form a person uses a diaper of any kind is not really the question I see as important. A person is a person and a friend I have yet to meet regardless of their lifestyle.
The priority 1 I concider is the reliability of a product.The name brand isn't important as long as it has a superior product with a reasonable price tag.
For sake of passing the proverbial olive branch I would welcome a sample of the Bianco version of Bambino but the price tag with shipping for me is better spent toward the popular diaper that arrives in the green with white packaging from a well known XP company. A well known brand without a designer price tag.
I'm not a overly biblical person but the following quote deserves a replay today :
"Love Thy Neighbor As Thyself"
All The Best,
Earl H.

Dec 08 2011 08:12 PM

When I first became incontinent, in my desperate flailing about I discovered a welcoming group of folks who seemed to know much about my situation. Only much later I discovered that they were AB/DL. Although I was never attracted to their life style, they taught me much about dealing with incontinence. In addition to teaching me about incontinence management, they also taught me about being open minded about alternative life styles.

Dec 09 2011 08:42 AM

Glad to see this thread up. I got grief and my post deleted a few months ago when I said I thought the white Bambino's were a good diaper. I don't understand AB's and it's not my thing. But, if they enjoy it, good for them. It's totally harmless. However, I do understand DL's since I had a passing interest in wearing diapers before I actually had the need arise and had to wear diapers.

That said, the ABDL crowd probably makes more noise and is more vocal than the incontinent crowd about wanting better adult diapers. They are advocating for better diapers just like we are. If we have a common interest in getting diaper companies to make better adult diapers and, as a result of our combined efforts, it happens, that's great. It doesn't offend me that they enjoy wearing them and I need to wear them. Should a woman be insulted and offeneded because some guy likes to wear women's panties? No. His behavior is harmless and hurts no one.

Everyone has different issues and needs. However, I am glad that the ABDL community has not infiltrated this message board and tried to make it theirs. I am glad that it is monitored and that it's main focus has been on incontinence related issues and the need to wear diapers/protection relating to incontinence. The ABDL community has their own message boards and that's where they should post messages related to their lifestyle.

By wearing diapers, they are not making fun of us. They may think they want to be one of us, but if they do, the joke is on them. Fantasy is different than reality. Having an option or a choice is much better than having a need. I have looked at some of the websites that cater to the ABDL community and it looks as though some of them make some very good products that I certainly would consider wearing. This is especially true when it comes to the cloth diapers and pullups. Yes, they make them in baby patterns for the AB's, but they also generally make it in all white for people like myself who are not AB's but may want to purchase them. Let's face it, a good product is a good product. I don't care where it comes from. If it helps me deal with my incontinence, that's great. The people at KC don't listen to our complaints and, although their message board is great, their products are among the worst on the market.

That said, I'm curious as to how others here who have tried the Bambino diapers rate them against the other premium diapers. I find that they generally work well for ovrenight usage and don't leak to often. That said, I would also be interested in finding a better premium diaper for overnight or daytime use.

Let's continue our efforts to get better adult disposible diapers no matter who manufactures them!

Dec 09 2011 11:12 PM

I am a 29 yr old disabled vet with complete bladder and bowel incontinence. I have to say that I am grateful for the diapers that I use. I wear Abena Xplus and Extra 24/7. I have to say that I enjoy them because they give me life where I would have none. Without diapers, my life would be miserable and I would be housebound. I couldn't go anywhere. I also wear plastic pants. I use pants of different colors. It is very common for people to like color in their underwear. So why shouldn't I enjoy some variety in my plastic pants. I have some in blue, yellow, red, and green. They just add a little spice to my life. They may be made for the AB community, but I don't care. I still appreciate them. They make me feel like I don't belong in an institution. So I am grateful that they make such products to make my life more enjoyable. And if they AB/DL's want to come here and read, thats fine with me too. I just don't want alot of fantasy stuff on the forum. Thats all I ask!

Dec 10 2011 06:44 AM

over all it's been my experance that AB/DL are more vocal to companies to make better product then the disabled people have, maby it's the stigma people still need to get over, some AB/DL don't care about the stigma, we want products that are comfortable and work when needed where as people that need them still have shame or feel that they need to be overly descreet and use the crap that companies "think" we need, i.e thin clothlike diapers that dont show even under tight clothling and god forbid they make any noise, that results in a product that fails to work correctly for the need at hand. I dont understand why some one would not want a diaper that works just because it's sold by a company that caters to the AB/DL croud but still caters to us as well. The only problem i have had with some AB/DL people is when they lie about a problem or have other motives. I find that dishonist and indeed does make people feel used but this forum does a good job at weeding that 5% out.
on another note, just for the record, i have been and allways will probly be a DL , i have never tried to hide that, I have bladder problems as well, most of my life and i think it's a godsend that i like diapers even though i need to wear them. Easer then hating them and being stuck in them. I found out that liked them when i needed them for bed wetting, go figure...

Dec 10 2011 10:48 AM

Picture a 4th Back To The Future movie where we all "erased" the negative "time line" out of existance.
It wouldn't take a Delorian to make time travel possible.
Rather,
A few futuristic folks who have gone past the trials and tribulations of good old 2011.
As my quote says and it can indeed be used by everybody,
"I'd rather be in a wet diaper than in wet pants"
With 2012 soon approaching it would be the perfect time to become one of these futuristic folks to carry on what Doc Emmet Brown so proudly said,
"The future is what you make it".
In this movie's own way it makes a statement for everyone everywhere.

With my movie rambling aside I will echo Draco's observation in saying there may be, as I've come to accept my diaper needs enough to say DL is not a taboo when taken in perspective to daily wetting needs.
In a past post my Term of DU , diaper user, might be a bit more tame but have the same effect.

Final Thought:
Fire up the flux capacitor and make the future a better reality

Dec 10 2011 08:14 PM

As mentioned earlier, when I first became incontinent, I was technically AB/DL, because I was on their mailing lists. I was grateful for all the advice they offered, and especially grateful for their assistance in finding manufacturers. My incontinence involved intense pain, making morphine necessary. The AB/DL folk did not understand this, which I found frustrating. Their hobby/lifestyle was hugely painful for me, which was only relieved by surgery, (sphincterotomy).

There are areas in which we can cooperate to our mutual advantage. The AB/DL folk have been influential in securing higher quality, more absorbent protection, and in de-stigmatizing adults who wear diapers. For this they deserve my applause. Since my surgery, I only rarely get the painful bladder spasms that made it necessary. However, I do still get them, and every time I do, they remind me why I'm not AB/DL, why, for me, diapers are necessities, not a hobby.

Jan 24 2012 12:49 PM

first of all....sorry, to bring new life to an old topic.
Thank You all for at least hearing my point of view. My reply was taken much better than I thought it would be.
It was very nice of you all to enlighten me as to exactly what it is that caused your distaste for the AB/DL community. When you all described the things that they were doing (talking about our sexual desires needs etc.....) you all don't need to hear about that!!!! This thread is not about that stuff and I recognize that. We have our own forums and threads to "talk like babies" and such, it would be inappropriate (in my opinion) to barrage this thread with that type of stuff.
I am glad to be able to get this off my chest and Thank You all for the opportunity to express myself and my beliefs. As I stated, I (we) stand ready to assist you all in any way possible and hope to have a better relationship in the future. I will continue to be a lurker here, but I will seldom post unless I can offer constructive information.

Thank You;

Paul