Men's discussion

Jan 23 2012 07:14 PM

Hi, Househubby. I feel your pain. I've had non-bacterial prostatitis and it is beyond aggravating.

But which product is right for you will depend entirely on how you void and how much you void, both at once and in total.

If you're just releasing a little at a time, you might get away with some of the underwear. But if you plan to release a little at a time several times throughout the day, consider something more absorbent. If you're trying to stick with Depend products, their adjustable underwear are surprisingly serviceable for that purpose.

But if you're trying to hold your urine longer, and therefore may flood the . . . garment, you might try the full-on diaper. Because of the larger pad, these have significant advantages not only in absorbency, but in reliability in a variety of positions, including sitting down. Still, I wouldn't trust them for sleeping.

Does that help?

-RMS

Jan 24 2012 11:48 AM

I definitely appreciate that you don't like the idea of wearing a diaper. However, if your experience is like that of a lot of us, you'll find that wearing a diaper will eventually seem like a kind of liberation. Anxiety about visibly wetting you pants is a horrible feeling that makes people afraid to go anywhere and do anything outside their house. And even at home, having to go to the bathroom a dozen or more times a day is a very unpleasant nuisance. Wearing a diaper that is absorbant enough to prevent visible accidents means that you can pretty much go wherever you want to go and do whatever you want to do with reasonable peace of mind.

When you do start to wear a diaper, you'll need to experiment a bit find a product that provides the security you need. This experimentation is probably best done at home or at least somewhere where you can quickly get to a bathroom and change when necessary. You should be able to find a product that with a capacity great enough to last you several hours so that you could go shopping with your wife, attend a sports event such as a hockey game (you can tell I'm Canadian), or go to a movie without having to worry about your leaky plumbing. I suggest that you try visiting some of the incontinence discussion sites that are not sponsored by a particular brand of incontinence product. You'll get more candid advice about what to try than you can find on a site such as this.

Finally, when you start wearing a diaper, you will worry because you think people can tell you're wearing a diaper. Everybody worries about that at first. However, you can take my word for it and, if you look around what people say on this and similar forums, you'll see that eventually people come to realize two things. First, hardly anybody goes around looking for people that they can tell are wearing a diaper. People are so caught up with their own concerns that in fact hardly anyone ever notices. And second, if somebody should notice, how important is it? The important thing is getting out and leading a normal life. What someone might think if they should happen to notice that you're wearing a diaper really doesn't much matter.

Jan 26 2012 11:24 AM

Good luck with your diaper trials. Let us know how things are going.

Depend does not permit the posting of links to other sites. Two sites to which I was referring are Yahoo groups. One is called AdultIncon; the other is called Icont. If you don't already have one, you'll need to get a Yahoo ID and then join the two groups. Another good web site not related to Yahoo is called Incontinentsupport. You can locate it with a Google search.

Jan 27 2012 12:19 AM

As miserable a condition as incontinence can be, I can not imagine what it was like 20, 30 or 50 years ago, when it was cloth and no other options... I am thankful now to at least have a really good selection of adult products to choose from for my needs. Cloth at night is great, I am a believer in that now, but not anything I could wear during the day outside of the house without it being so obvious to anyone behind me! There are at least a dozen good sites to order from, shipping can be an issue though, especially for those of us in Canada, Puffy

Feb 10 2012 04:01 PM

The best suggestions I can offer as to, caring for or, washing and drying, cloth diaper and plastic pants; First and foremost NEVVER USE FABRIC SOFTENER as it will damage both plastic pants and absorbency of cloth. Plus,
For Cloth diapers, Soak wet and soild cloth diapers until you can wash them. and again NEVER EVER use fabric softner even one time as it will reduce absorbency immensely. When drying if diaper has elastic or veclro on it best to line dry or use low-med heat setting on dryer.
For Plastic pants, wash on warm-cold settings and line dry only and again without FABRIC SOFTNER. Also heres' a helpful hint; since I usually wash my plastic pants with other cloths and have a top loading washer I alway put pants in a lingerie bag to protect them from being damaged while being wash and the bags are great when it comes time to seperate, plastic pant and other items into either dryer and line drying items.
Best of luck

Feb 13 2012 11:42 PM

Househubby, how are the diapers working out? i hope you are used to them now and feel more comfortable with them. It is a major adjustment, but you are hopefully better off now. i hope you physical problems are better with protection also. the pain is not worth it and letting the protection do its job is so much more comfortable. The only down side with giving in to incontinece is that, you can't go back usually once you give in. Retraining is an uphill battle usually not won. Quality of life is key, keep your head held high and enjoy life!

Mar 07 2012 08:30 PM

househubby,
Granted that you are very self-conscious now; we all were when wearing some kind of protection first became necessary. Give them time, and you will eventually feel relieved, even good, to allow your protection to do its work, so you can get on with more important things in your life.